don't fight

"Again, don't fight; if you fight, you'll crack. You can't fight foul language, foul smells, sweat, dirt, and all the rest of it. The only thing you can do is to live amongst it both with acceptance and withdrawal. That sounds paradoxical but it's perfectly possible. You're not befouled by another man's obscenities and brutalities, though you may feel you are, but only by your own, and if you have strangled your own, then the door of escape is open for you and you can go through it to the fortress when you wish. There is a fortress, you know."

                                                    -  Elizabeth Goudge,  Gentian Hill