Searching for a Balance
Monday, April 7, 2025
Sunday, March 30, 2025
the back view
Moses said, "Show me your glory, I pray." And he [God] said, "I will make all my goodness pass before you, and will proclaim before you the name, 'The Lord'; and I will be gracious to whom I will be gracious, and will show mercy on whom I will show mercy. But", he said, "you cannot see my face; for no one shall see me and live.....you shall see my back; but my face shall not be seen."
Exodus 33: 18, 19, 20, 23b
"God indeed can be seen in this life, but only indirectly, through his creatures and effects. We can understand him to a degree, but only obliquely, glimpsing him, as it were, out of the corners of our eyes. We see his "back" as it is disclosed in the beauty, the intelligibility, and the contingency of the world that he has made."
- Bishop Robert Barron
"Shall I tell the secret of the whole world? It is that we have only known the back of the world. We see everything from behind, and it looks brutal. That is not a tree, but the back of a tree. That is not a cloud, but the back of a cloud. Cannot you see that everything is stooping and hiding a face? If we could only get round in front."
- G.K. Chesterton
Saturday, March 29, 2025
looking for answers
I forgot a book which belongs in this pile - Silence and Honey Cakes, written by Rowan Williams. I'm liking it WAY more than I expected to.
Monastery and High Cross is about something which may surprise you. From the back cover:
"It is a little-known fact that there were Christians in Ireland before St. Patrick. In 2006, an astonishing discovery was made in Ireland. Found by accident in a peat bog [of course, a peat bog - where else?] was an early medieval Irish manuscript with Egyptian papyrus in the binding of the manuscript? How did that get there?"
How, indeed? Connie Marshner, the author, will tell me how.
My brother called to me this morning: Come quickly with your camera - there's a woodchuck eating a carrot!
He was right near the house, close to the bird feeder. We are still throwing carrots outside for the rabbits some nights, and I'd just been wondering who else would eat a carrot.
He was a good-sized one.
These creatures are also called groundhogs. They don't ever chuck wood, that I know of.
How much wood
Would a woodchuck chuck
If a woodchuck
Could chuck
Wood?
Monday, March 24, 2025
puddles and puzzles
It rained all day, and everything is puddled. It was a winter rain, it couldn't be described as a spring shower, at all. But I used the oven and made chicken tetrazzini, to warm us up.
The crabapple tree is full of crabapples - I don't know what to do about it. They should have been eaten, or fallen down, right? In a month, these trees should be blooming, and will the fruits get in the way? Will they cause a problem. I'll have to go outside and examine it up close. Did they go bad? We'll have to find out.
And on the subject of trees, our young kousa dogwood seems to have the bark gone near the bottom part - we assume it's our rabbit neighbors, since they're known to eat tender bark in the winter. We'll see how that tree does, if it can continue without the bark. Also, my brother says they chewed his blueberry bushes down to the nub. Live and learn. We enjoy our rabbit friends, and we'll work on ways to live together.
From this morning's reading, on John 13:34 -
"God is love. God is self-emptying on behalf of the other. But this means paradoxically that to have God is to be what God is - and that means giving one's life away.
Now we see the link between joy and commandments; I give you a new commandment, that you love one another. Just as I have loved you, you also should love one another. And now we begin to understand the laws, commands, and demands of the Church. All are designed to make us more adept at love, at giving ourselves away. Don't steal; don't kill; don't covet your neighbor's goods or wife; honor your mother and father, worship God. All of these commands - positive and negative - are meant to awaken love and make it possible."
- Bishop Robert Barron
Sunday, March 23, 2025
"what our Lenten journey is for"
"It's worth reflecting on the idea that certain things and certain things only have been 'assigned to our brush', given us to work with, know and describe. It reminds me strongly of the Prayer Book petition that we should 'do all such good works as thou hast prepared for us to walk in'. Most of us are under pressure, external and internal, to do everything, be good at everything, be accountable to everyone for everything! It is not so. In the divine economy each of us has a particular grace, gift and devotion. Finding out what that is, and learning how to be guilt-free about not doing everything else, may be part of what our Lenten journey is for."*
- Malcolm Guite, The Word in the Wilderness, Sunday, 3rd week of Lent
*The emphasis is mine.
Saturday, March 22, 2025
creature discomforts
Daisy knocked one of the kitchen curtains on the floor -
There is one squirrel who isn't baffled by the - well, the squirrel baffle.
Clever fellow.
On another note, Annie chased a crumpled paper and brought it back to me seven times, and the daffodils are getting ready to appear.
Monday, March 17, 2025
an Irish poem
and a very well-known one, for St. Patrick's Day.
The Song of Wandering Aengus
I went out to the hazel wood,
Because a fire was in my head,
And cut and peeled a hazel wand,
And hooked a berry to a thread;
And when white moths were on the wing,
And moth-like stars were flickering out,
I dropped the berry in a stream
And caught a little silver trout.
When I had laid it on the floor
I went to blow the fire a-flame,
But something rustled on the floor,
And someone called me by my name:
It had become a glimmering girl
With apple blossom in her hair
Who called me by my name and ran
And faded through the brightening air.
Though I am old with wandering
Through hollow lands and hilly lands,
I will find out where she has gone,
And kiss her lips and take her hands;
And walk among long dappled grass,
And pluck till time and times are done
The silver apples of the moon,
The golden apples of the sun.
- William Butler Yeats
This poem is the basis for a meditation in Malcolm Guite's book of Lenten poetry, "The Word in the Wilderness". He says:
"We may go on pilgrimage, or wander in the wilderness in pursuit of a vision, but it is also usually the glimpse of a vision, the apprehension of 'something more', the half-heard voice, that seems to call to us in the first place and start us on our journey. ..For Yeats, Aengus represents perhaps not just the poet but every questing soul, and he is the one who retains his vision in spite of never, in this life, having it completely fulfilled. ..For every Christian, there is both a first vision and an unfulfilled 'not yet', and we must all say, in the words of another Irishman also indebted to Yeats, 'I still haven't found what I'm looking for.' ..The poet who thinks he has caught a trout has himself been caught, and will be drawn for the rest of his life on a line of desire and longing. 'And someone called me by my name.' For that is indeed the theme of this poem. Here we come to the heart meaning of the word 'vocation.' A vocation is a calling, and to have a Christian vocation is to have been called, called by name. The Lord of life and love calls us into being, calls us out of darkness into light, and calls us, personally, to turn and begin our lives anew in him."
- Malcolm Guite, The Word in the Wilderness
Sunday, March 16, 2025
on the horizon
"Down through the centuries and generations it has been seen that in suffering there is concealed a particular power that draws a person interiorly close to Christ, a special grace. .To this grace...many saints owe their conversion. A result of such a conversion is ...that he becomes a completely new person. He discovers a new dimension, as it were, of his entire life and vocation. When this body is gravely ill, totally incapacitated, and the person is almost incapable of living and acting, all the more do interior maturity and spiritual greatness become evident, constituting a touching lesson to those who are healthy and normal.
To the suffering brother or sister Christ discloses and gradually reveals the horizons of the kingdom of God: the horizons of a world converted to the Creator, of a world free from sin, a world being built on the saving power of love."
- Pope John Paul II
"He will transform the body of our humiliation that it may be conformed to the body of his glory, by the power that also enables him to make all things subject to himself."
St. Paul's letter to the Philippians, chapter 3 verse 21
Saturday, March 15, 2025
a happy accident
There were some cranberries in the freezer which I decided to use up, and looking through my pinterest recipes, I found a cranberry bread with orange juice in it - sounded good. I mixed it up, but then noticed it looked funny in the oven; it didn't rise up the way it was supposed to, and I knew I hadn't forgotten the baking powder. Well, it turns out I'd put in one cup of flour instead of two. What a waste! I picked at it, thinking I'd have to chuck it when it cooled, and I was suddenly reminded of what my mother used to refer to as cottage pudding. But it was getting late, so I stuck it in the fridge. That was days ago.
Today I pulled it out, and while I pondered the situation, I had another bite - it really was pretty good. More dense and moist than regular cake, but nice and tart from the cranberries and OJ. I cut it into thick pieces and put it in the freezer. And, just like that, I know what's for Easter dessert! All it needs is a sauce of some sort - maybe I'll splurge on lemon curd.
Thursday, March 13, 2025
pins and providence
"You 'flee' to the desert not to escape neighbors but to grasp more fully what the neighbor is - the way of life for you, to the degree that you put yourself at their disposal in connecting them with God."
- Rowan Williams, Silence and Honey Cakes
I always feel discombobulated after going out in the middle of the day. Like I've lost my tempo, have to regroup. But I managed to change the sheets, do the laundry, wash dishes, iron, provide some supper - and do some reading. A minimum.
"'What does providence mean?' asked Meg.
'Good management,' said Lucilla. 'It's also a name we give to God when His management is not what ours would have been under the circumstances.'"
- from The Heart of the Home, by Eliz. Goudge
I cut out the pieces for my next skirt, but realized I should iron it before anything else. It was beautiful out, and I am weeding wintery sweaters from my closet, one by one. Last month was very cold, and the library was especially chilly for some reason - I discovered that revived a few shawls which have languished for years in drawers and the closet. But I was needing a shawl pin, so I found a few on Amazon and wore one as a pin the other day.
A bird on a branch - nice and springy.
Sunday, March 9, 2025
home again
"We were made for home, and one of the first commands God gave the people newly created in his image was simply to rule and subdue (order) the good earth that was their home. .. One of the first consequences of sin and suffering in the world was the loss of belonging, the loss of the precious place for which humanity was created. It was the loss of home, and to be wanderers in the vast and distorted world was the essence of what it meant to be separated from God. ...However, when Christ came, ...the Spirit of God walked abroad in human flesh, and where Jesus went, heaven was. Where Jesus went, the cosmos was reclaimed for love. Where Jesus went, people were fed and bodies were healed and creation made whole. Where Jesus was, the earth seemed to be made a home again."
- Sarah Clarkson, This Beautiful Truth
Friday, March 7, 2025
something to chew on
I keep saying the wind is howling, but it keeps howling. So, what else is there to say? It's absolutely pointless to plan any outside activity - the wind would be working against you. It seems to have caused havoc in Boston.
On the coldest nights, my brother threw carrot chunks out near the bird feeder. He did this after we saw a rabbit eating bird seed while frozen snow was on the ground. I told him that, since vegetables contain so much water, they would freeze and be too hard to eat - not so. The rabbits came along and chewed them happily. They'd come right after dark, stay and chew for a while, then disappear. Only to return the next time we looked out. They seem to stay up all night doing this, coming and going, snacking. After a couple of nights, two opossums were there, getting bird seed from the ground. That went on for a couple of days, and then a very large raccoon appeared, looking like he was hunting for grubs. And I haven't seen a rabbit since. But they are taking the carrots, so I suppose they're being more careful. A raccoon is a sometime predator of rabbits.
I bought some rayon for another skirt
The green is a bit greener than this, but still a soft shade.
Since I got Malcolm Guite's The Word in the Wilderness: a Poem a Day for Lent and Easter, I use it, and so far haven't tired of it. The sonnet for today has to do with the devil's second tempation of Jesus in the desert wilderness.
All the Kingdoms of the World
So here's the deal and this is what you get:
The penthouse suite with world-commanding views,
The banker's bonus and the private jet,
Control and ownership of all the news,
An 'in' to that exclusive one per cent,
Who know the score, who really run the show,
With interest on every penny lent
And sweeteners for cronies in the know.
A straight arrangement between me and you,
No hell below or heaven high above,
You just admit it, and give me my due,
And wake up from this foolish dream of love...
But Jesus laughed, 'You are not what you seem.
Love is the waking life, you are the dream.'
- Malcolm Guite
"Then the devil led him and showed him in an instant all the kingdoms of the world. And the devil said to him, 'To you I will give their glory and all this authority; for it has been given over to me and I give it to anyone I please. If you, then, will worship me, it will all be yours.'"
- Luke 4:5-7
Thursday, March 6, 2025
we have today
I slept with my window open last night. It didn't get below fifty, although the wind was forceful and there was rain. It actually got up to sixty two today, for a while. Now the wind is blowing like crazy again, and colder air is coming back - this is normal for March. But the warm spells are so enticing.
I finished my skirt the other day, and got the waistband just right, thankfully. I used elastic, since this fabric is a knit - a zipper wasn't necessary. I am not going to hem it. Knits don't fray, and I'd rather not add bulk to the bottom by turning it under - I don't think anybody is going to notice. So today I took the leftover and walked around the house with it to see if the colors would look nice anywhere. The spare bedroom has a small pillow which needs a cover, and the velvet was pretty with the bedspread, so I haphazardly made a zippered cover.
"Someday, all of us will spend our lives in our own school, the world. And education - in the sense of learning to love, to grow, to change - can become not the woeful preparation for some job that makes us less than we could be but the very essence, the joyful whole of existence itself."
The very act of saying, 'I believe,' is a renewal of faith. As for the world, it has been in a parlous state so long that there is no sense in worrying about the future. It is better, I think, to go on believing in goodness and beauty and truth and in God, no matter how we define these terms each of us for ourselves.
Monday, March 3, 2025
Scottish oatmeal - is it really a thing?
Can you see how finely ground it is? Not as fine as flour, but finer than any oats I ever saw. Do the Scots really eat this for breakfast? It must be very mushy; I feel skeptical. But I bought a bag.
Sunday, March 2, 2025
living in dangerous times
"Why, as you would have lived in the sixteenth century when the plague visited London almost every year, or as you would have lived in a Viking age when raiders from Scandinavia might land and cut your throat at night.... The first action to take is to pull ourselves together. If we are all going to be destroyed by an atomic bomb, let that bomb come when it comes find us doing sensible and human things - praying, working, teaching, reading, listening to music, bathing the children, playing tennis, chatting to our friends over a pint and a game of darts - not huddled together like frightened sheep and thinking about bombs. They may break our bodies (a microbe can do that) but they need not dominate our minds."
- C.S. Lewis, On Living in an Atomic Age
The clouds of judgment gather,
The time is growing late;
Be sober and be watchful;
Our Judge is at the gate:
The Judge who comes in mercy,
The Judge who comes in might
To put an end to evil
And diadem the right.
- Bernard of Morlaix, 12th century
Saturday, March 1, 2025
hello, March
This morning I thought March was coming in like a lamb, but there are twenty-four hours in a day, and by mid-afternoon the wind was roaring, the clouds rolled in and it's supposed to be twenty-nine degrees by nine o'clock. That's a lion. That is March in New England. I couldn't believe how mild it was earlier - sixty-two degrees - and the cats and I really enjoyed the open windows, but I wore boots to the supermarket, because snow was predicted for late afternoon. It didn't happen.
I was reading a substack post today, and the person quoted a paragraph from a Mary Oliver poem. One line caught my fancy:
"In March, the earth remembers its own name."
Yes, the earth around here is waking up. But not tomorrow; it's going to be in the twenties, and tonight my brother threw out some carrot chunks for the rabbits; they do come!
Monday, February 24, 2025
the road
“O Lord, as we travel through this day of our life, our strength is in you; in our hearts are the roads to our eternal destination, the place where you dwell for ever with your people in joy and in peace. Sustain us as we pass through the bitter valleys of suffering; shield us as dangers threaten; let us rejoice in the springs of living water that refresh us on our way; and keep us faithful until journey’s end, through Christ our Lord. Amen.”
- from Magnificat, February 2025
Saturday, February 22, 2025
Happy Birthday, George Washington!
I've always wanted to make a cherry pie on George Washington's birthday. I cannot tell a lie - today I did it.
Thursday, February 20, 2025
repeats
I cut out the front and back pieces for the skirt today; I have to think about the casing for the elastic - I'm not going to fold over the top, but make a separate piece for that. It's a very pretty polyester velvet with a large floral. I sewed the side seams and was walking by a print on my wall. I got it at Goodwill; it's a bowl of flowers, mostly shades of pale to deep rose pink. The background is rather neutral, even the leaves. I realized my fabric looked a lot like this painting.
Wednesday, February 19, 2025
sshhhh
We've seen a rabbit outside under the bird feeder, the past two nights, eating seed. The snow is crusty and hard, the days and nights are frigid and they are hungry. My brother bought timothy hay at Agway, and put some out there, and the rabbit came tonight. I was about to get the dryer going, but decided to wait - the noise and steam might send him away.
Just trying to help.
Tuesday, February 18, 2025
the two
I went into the spare room, and there was Annie on a dresser - that was a surprise. They stayed there, and I got my camera. I love this picture - it's hard to get a good one of Annie, especially.
Monday, February 17, 2025
staying warm
The wind roared all day.
Sunday, February 16, 2025
nothing is wasted
"Our difficulties, whatever they may be, can all be used. They are redemptive. Many, many saints experienced various degrees of mental and emotional suffering and anxiety, and their experience, painful as it was, had profoundly spiritual effects on themselves and others. The anxiety is true at the level of felt experience, but at a deeper level, at the level of spirit and faith, something quite different may be happening. Even in anxiety one can have a real sense of God's love and possess faith.
And it's important to recognize that feeling low, depressed, is an emotional state, not an action. This does not cut you off from God in any way. Those who suffer this affliction have not yielded to it, any more than one yields to a broken arm or leg. So it is never a question of yielding to a sinful action - that would be a far deeper wound - but rather a condition.
But this condition is not meaningless. Prayers to God for help and relief are real prayers and signs of an active faith, hope, and love. This recognition of our need of God, and learning to trust him, are very precious. In all these ways there can be real growth in the midst of, and in spite of, anxieties. Also, these experiences, painful as they are, often bring a deepening compassion for others. All of us have something to carry - whether physical or moral or spiritual - and, united to Christ, these become fruitful for ourselves and others."
- Sister Mary David Totah, O.S.B. from Magnificat, February 2025
All emphases are mine. Sister Mary David Totah was an American who later became a Benedictine nun at Saint Cecilia's Abbey on the Isle of Wight. She died in 2017.
Saturday, February 15, 2025
a real winter, it is
I saw rabbit tracks in the snow around the bird feeder; do rabbits eat sunflower seeds? I hope he found some food.
I finished reading The Bird in the Tree. It's the first in a trilogy, with the middle one being my favorite. But I had forgotten how good this was - or maybe I hadn't realized it before. I'm wanting to read the whole thing again, but it's not long ago I read the second, so I may just go right to the third, which is The Heart of the Family - I don't remember it that well, but I know I loved these three books.
"In times of storm and tempest, of indecision and desolation, a book already known and loved makes better reading than something new and untried. The meeting with remembered and well-loved passages is like the continual greeting of old friends; nothing is so warming and companionable."
- Elizabeth Goudge, The Bird in the Tree
Meanwhile, I continue with J.D. Vance's memoir of his youth in Appalachia. He's come a long way from that very unstable childhood, to the fellow who made that terrific speech in Munich the other day.
Sunday, February 9, 2025
a bit of snow
not quite four. Honestly.
when it snows in the night
When it snows at night, the reflection from a sky filled with snowflakes is brighter than on a full moon. It lightens the whole house inside, so there’s no groping in the dark when you have to get up.
In case you didn’t know.
Saturday, February 8, 2025
a lot of snow on the way
It's supposed to start snowing any moment, but the sky is too dark. When it's going to snow, the clouds are so thick, it looks whitish. But we are getting - some are saying five to nine inches, some six to ten - a good amount, and it will come in its own good time, I guess. But this morning, I hung something on the line to dry! It was just over freezing, but there is something mild in the air - it's hopeful.
We went to Mass this afternoon, in case it's too bad tomorrow. A lot of others had the same idea. One of the hymns we sang was In Christ Alone, which is rather stirring - an Irish-sounding melody.
I've put Samuel Adams aside (again! poor fellow) and am finally reading Hillbilly Elegy. I have been interested in that book for eight years, and now he's Vice President - it's time. What kept me from it, was the idea it would be heavy, but it's not. In fact, the introduction really grabbed my attention; I often skip introductions.
"I was one of those kids with a grim future. I almost failed out of high school. I nearly gave in to the deep anger and resentment harbored by everyone around me. Today people look at me, at my job and my Ivy League credentials, and assume that I'm some sort of genius, that only a truly extraordinary person could have made it to where I am today. With all due respect to those people, I think that theory is a load of bullshit. Whatever talents I have, I almost squandered until a handful of loving people rescued me.
That is the real story of my life, and that is why I wrote this book. I want people to know what it feels like to nearly give up on yourself and why you might do it. I want people to understand what happens in the lives of the poor and the psychological impact that spiritual and material poverty has on their children. I want people to understand the American Dream as my family and I encountered it. I want people to understand how upward mobility really feels. And I want people to understand something I learned only recently: that for those of us luck enough to live the American Dream, the demons of the life we left behind continue to chase us."
- J.D. Vance, Hillbilly Elegy
At five minutes to ten, it hadn't begun to snow yet. At ten fifteen, I looked out - the ground was almost covered.
And I baked a fancy quick bread recipe, because I always want to bake during snowstorms.
Thursday, February 6, 2025
snowing and sewing
"Candlemas [Feb. 2] is the last feast of winter and the first feast of spring" (from Winters in the World by Eleanor Parker) - I wonder if that means the weather was more temperate and predictable back then, or is it just that it's milder in the UK, anyway?
It snowed Sunday night, but then the air was mild, so the snow didn't last. Today, we had a little bit more with some freezing rain - a very different matter. They closed the library and other town offices. But Sunday - we are supposed to have seven to ten inches through Sat. night and all day Sunday! That changed from this morning's prediction which was three to six inches. Wow.
Monday, February 3, 2025
dressing like Jane
I tried on my Regency gown. Well, I tried to try it on - it doesn't fit anymore. But I did such a good job on it - I'm amazed. It's nice and heavy, with the whole thing except the sleeves lined. I made the piping and put it in all the bodice seams
The back center section has gathers, and is lower, like a small train. These bodices are meant to be snug, and, even though I weigh more than I did, my extra weight isn't on top. But I've also done some exercising since then which may account for it. So it doesn't fit, but I don't think I can get rid of it. It's the nicest thing I've ever made. As for trying to match up all the plaid - well, I did the best I could.
Sunday, February 2, 2025
"the purpose of education"
"The purpose of education, finally, is to create in a person the ability to look at the world for himself, to make his own decisions, ....But no society is really anxious to have that kind of person around. What societies really, ideally, want is a citizenry which will simply obey the rules of society. If a society succeeds in this, that society is about to perish. The obligation of anyone who thinks of himself as responsible is to examine society and try to change it and to fight it - at no matter the risk. This is the only hope society has. This is the only way societies change."
- James Baldwin, from Plough, Winter, 2025
"How Samuel Adams supported his family starting around 1769 is a mystery. With his brewery closing that year, his only steady income was his small salary as clerk of the Massachusetts House of Representatives. According to gossip, the Adamses were so poor at this time that John Hancock and other friends sent them food to keep them from starving and repaired the Purchase Street house to keep it from falling. There was even a joke around Boston about Adams's letter writing: 'Samuel Adams writes the letters and John Hancock pays the postage’.”
Dennis Fradin, the author of this biography, says that Samuel Adams never held a good job when he was younger, he was more of a thinker. And it seems that our revolution would Never have come to pass without him. He knew we needed to revolt against the oppressive British rule and he never stopped insisting on it, trying to stir up the populace.
Sunday, January 26, 2025
fairyland, and other dreams
Well, everybody was praising the "mildness" of the day - it was above freezing.
Last Sunday night, it snowed. We woke up to a fairyland.